It’s inevitable- after years of being with someone, the spark will dim a bit. As newlyweds, you may have been rolling in the sheets every night. Now, you fall asleep next to each other every night with your comfy pajamas on. You need to put effort into reigniting the fire. Here are some resources to respire romance in your relationship.

Try Something New

It may be time to step out of your comfort zone and try something unexpected. Talk to your partner about some options before you surprise them with something they are not comfortable with. Some popular options include trying new toys, some BDSM, swinging, or role-playing. Once you have some kinky things to try, take some initiative to set up a night to try it. Be understanding if your partner doesn’t seem to be enjoying themselves and try something else if your initial idea doesn’t go as planned.

Go to a Doctor About Intimacy Issues

One reason that bedroom activity slows down is erectile dysfunction. It is a natural thing that happens when a man gets older. However, there are ways to fix it. Go to a ED clinic and talk to a doctor to get the help you need. If you are given pills, be careful to only take them on nights where you are guaranteed alone time with your significant other. You don’t want to end up with the effects alone.

Take a Romantic Vacation

A change of scenery can do a world of good for your sex life. Head out of town to somewhere exotic. Pack romantic items to be prepared when you find yourself spending quality time in the hotel room. Focus on a place that your partner really wants to go since you want them in a great mood during the vacation.

Talk to a Sex Therapist

Many couples go to a sex therapist to dive into their bedroom problems. The sex therapist can offer a safe place to talk about things that may be difficult to talk about. Be as understanding as possible in the therapy sessions, and be open-minded. When you get home, make a point to try the things you learned in your sessions.

You and your partner may have gotten off track in the sex department, but that doesn’t mean that it’s hopeless. Try these tips to spice up your love life.